UpSkill: How To Remain Confident In A Cut Throat World
By Tithi Soni
The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.
TRUST. BELIEF. RELY.
These are the power words that ultimately make confidence what it is. We’ve misunderstood confidence; as a jewel of the rich or as the pride of the beautiful. Confidence does not care about how you look, how heavy your bank accounts are or how big a house you own. It cares about these 3 words.
TRUST. BELIEF. RELY.
Today, increasingly our lives seem to be dominated by an unending race for coming first, for being the best, for standing out. People who know next to nothing speak louder than the wise, while others remain silent in disbelief. The irony is, those loud voices are heard by people who elevate them as an epitome of confidence, as standards against which to measure their own confidence. But we shouldn’t fall into that trap.
We need to focus, instead, on these three things: TRUST. BELIEF. RELY.
Let me tell you a story —
A tired bird landed on a branch. The bird rested, enjoying the view and the protection it offered from dangerous animals. Just as the bird became used to the branch and the support and safety it offered, a strong wind started blowing. The tree swayed with such intensity that it seemed the branch would snap in half.
But the bird was not worried, it knew two important truths:
The first truth – even without the branch it was able to fly, and thus remain safe through the power of its own two wings.
The second truth – it also knew that there were many other branches upon which it could temporarily rest.
Let’s take a few minutes to reflect on this story. This bird teaches us 3 things:
Trust your instincts
Sometimes a breakthrough disguises itself like a storm. Every time I talk about this, the image of a man purposefully digging into the ground for treasure comes to mind. He digs and digs until with just one more dig he would find his bounty, but just at that moment he gives up in frustration – tired, he gives in to his apparent result-less fate. But this bird stood firm against the wind as it was confident of the protection the branch offered. The bird’s confidence came through trusting its instincts rather than questioning its circumstance.
Believe in yourself and others
Another important thing the bird teaches us about confidence is being willing to ask for help. From time to time we need to count on those around us, the way the bird counted on the branch. However, the most important resting ground is within you – in your belief in yourself. Listen to the positive inner voices that tell you: ‘You will do it’, ‘You can face it’, ‘You are enough.’ Ultimately, it is the belief that will support you if that branch doesn’t.
Rely on your abilities
Lastly, the bird knew, if the branch failed, its wings were capable enough to fly to find another branch. The bird didn’t need to worry. That’s what we need. We need to rely on our ability to stand after we fall, to accept failure as a chance for learning and improvement, and rejection as an opening to another opportunity.
These are the 3 things that will help you to resist looking outside in search of confidence. Let the world dance to the tune of power.