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In this episode Michel discusses the ways in which the imposture actually gets in the way of our progress without us even realizing it.
There are specific consequences imposture syndrome can have on our lives, such as making us feel like we are unworthy of having more in our lives: promotions, better relationships etc.
You stay in your comfort zone because you doubt that you will succeed, or that you deserve to go any further.
Doing this holds you back, and also deprives others of the contributions you can bring to school, work or your personal life.Please go to UpSkillCommunity.com to review show notes and join a community of leaders investing in better understanding themselves so they can address the imposter syndrome in their work and lives.
We are all a work in progress. Yet, sometimes our progress is hampered by an imposture. And on welcoming posture. This imposture that I’m talking about is the imposture syndrome. And in the previous episodes, I’ve defined it in this episode, I’m going to discuss the ways in which the imposture. Actually gets in the way of our progress without us even realizing it. And then I’m going to provide you the most essential strategy. For addressing the imposter syndrome. The imposture that you have, won’t like it, but it will have to step out of your way. And allow you to progress at the rate at which you’re capable of progressing.
Welcome to UpSkill Talks brought to you by McGraw Hill. I’m your host, Michel Shah lead UpSkiller at UpSkill Community. UpSkill Talks is a podcast for leaders, leaders who are actively seeking innovative and creative ways to interact lead themselves and others. In every episode, through real life stories and enlightening conversations, we will explore the challenge. And opportunities real leaders face in today’s everchanging workplace. We will present you with real strategies for you to leverage your soft skills and produce transformative results. Thank you for joining me on this journey. Let us begin.
The number one way that the imposter syndrome may show up without you realizing it, particularly in your professional life is in your own willingness to climb any higher to take on any more challenges. To expand your role to do more. Because. You were afraid. That they will definitely figure out that you are an imposture at the next level and that may show up in you reject in promotions, rejecting opportunities to lead projects. Rejecting opportunities to mentor, just rejecting to do anything outside of what you’re doing. You get to a point and you go, you know what? This is good for me. The other areas are too challenging, too much. I’m good right here. I’m not taking on anything else. I’m good because now you’ve hit the safe spot that the imposture has told you. It’s likely that you are not as competent as other people to be able to move to the other area. Pause and reflect. And try to think about what the imposture is taken away from. You. And not just you. Taken away from others who could benefit from what you bring to the table. When you take away from yourself, the imposter syndrome is there to deprive you. So it’s important for you to remember that. And when it succeed, you are taken away from yourself, you’re taken away from your own ability to grow yourself and to be more and to do more and to showcase more of yourself to others. You’re also taking away from others by not sharing those great ideas and skills, which we can use to help ourselves to level up and to level up or organizations our communities and our world. And so is so important. For you to begin to own your competency. That is your gift to us, your gift to your world. And no one else can provide that unique combination of competency that you bring. And so you need to own that as uniquely yours and your unique gift that you give to us. And we value it and it helps us to level up. One of my favorite strategies for helping with this is to have an accomplishment log. I discussed this in the previous episode as well. This does not need to be a special log book. It can be the notes on your phone, it can be the reminders on your phone. It can be any device. You have At Jyotin pad. Where you write down dates. And accomplishments. Like today’s date. I completed. Episode 43. Simple. Today. I completed research on imposture syndrome. Today’s date. Posted. Podcast on LinkedIn to share with others. Whatever it is that you’re doing. If you acknowledge the very little things, you’ll realize that there is something of value that you are adding to the world. It could be arrived on time 30 days in a row, because you were working on your time management skills. I acknowledged that it could be. Went walking three days a week. As promised to myself and accomplishment is really owning up and honoring yourself and your own goals and your own plans and being true to them and committing to them and delivering on them, whatever those are, whether it’s work or in your personal life, pause to acknowledge that there is no one else in the world like you, no one else that brings what you bring the particular. Blender that you bring your, like that unique recipe where everyone may have all the raw ingredients, but you bring those ingredients together to make this one thing that only you can share. And if you see yourself, In that uniqueness. Then you understand that even if someone copies what you’ve done, or even if 10 other people have done it, There is someone who can benefit from what you bring. And that’s the person you want to be thinking about and focusing on as you shift your mindset from. Nah. That’s, that’s not me. That’s ridiculous. Why are they going over the top? Everybody is exaggerating. I didn’t do that much. It’s not such a big deal. Shift away from that to say, Thank you. I’m grateful to be recognized. I’m grateful that you acknowledge it. I’m glad you liked it. Tell me what you liked about it. Just engage in a dialogue which will bond you and connect you with people. Then the rejection, which rebuffs and pushes people away from you.
One of my favorite coats and I’m not sure who to attribute it to sounds like this, “a mind that feeds on its own soon becomes a starved.” I think one of the keys to shifting away from the deficiency model, where the imposter comes in and takes up more and more space in our lives, telling us more and more negative stories about who we are, what we’re doing, what we’re capable of, what we have accomplished. One strategy has to be ongoing dialogue with other people who see you. And experience you in positive ways, who you contribute to, who you help to level up, who you help to share perspectives with. I think being part of a group, a community where ideas are shared in an ongoing manner where feedback happens by chance. Where we’re always sharing and acknowledging each other’s work efforts, ideas that has to be a strategy for us to begin to feel a sense of belonging in a space, and to be able to share more openly and begin to believe in who we are, what we offer and where we can go and who we can be. I believe that community. However you defined it, whether it’s in person or online community is essential to eradicating imposter syndrome for all of us. And imposter syndrome is not one thing for all of us. It shows up for different reasons for different people, but I really believe community is one way that we can harness. Our collective power to help all of us share ideas and see each other in positive ways and support all of us to remove and reduce the impact of the imposter on us as individuals, but also for others who rely on us and need us to share our thoughts, our ideas, perspectives and to challenge their ideas so that we can all level up, we can all upscale and we can all go to this better place together. And that is the goal of what we do at upscale community, wanting to make sure there’s a community where all of us as leaders can have those conversations can see ourselves through the positive lenses of others and can grow into that more confident version of ourselves.
Remember my favourite coat I shared earlier. And mind that feeds on its own soon becomes a starved. When you sit and to do all of your thinking on your own. The imposture becomes your thinking partner. I stronger, more vigilant partner with greater experience than you. That takes you down a negative pathway. I think certainly by yourself, but do not be that mind. That feeds only on yourself. Think with others. Do you think with a community of leaders find peer groups wherever you are. Make sure that you’re a part of a community of thinkers, of idea, developers of innovators that you are not feeding on your own mind. With imposter lives, but that you are engaging with others whose lenses may help you see. Yourself more clearly. Who will hold up a mirror have you to yourself, maybe a version that you’ve never seen before I encourage you to get out there. Start conversations with others. Start sharing and start mentoring, start contributing and start to see the imposter does not like that environment. It will go away and will open up room for you to become more of who you really are meant to be.
Thank you for listening to this episode of UpSkill Talks brought to you by McGraw Hill. We bring you new episodes every Monday. Please take a moment to subscribe, leave a five star rating and a written review at apple podcast. Or follow us on. By Google podcast or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts, don’t forget to share UpSkill talks with other leaders like yourself. So they too may gain the skills and insights to produce amazing results. Please go to UpSkillCommunity.com to review show notes and learn how you can join a community of leaders from across the globe. Collaborating to lead in a more meaningful and impactful way. I’m your host, Michel Shah. And again, thank you for joining me on this episode of UpSkill Talks.
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